- Jun 2, 2018
Some say I’am obsessed with my guitars. Or, my son will say, “what ya thinking about? I know, your guitars”. If I am not playing you can be sure I have a song spinning on the strings in my head. Guitar is my life. If I have a set list agenda you know that I come prepared to play and not, I haven’t had time or whatever excuse they can come up with.
This above is my mentality in dealing with ppl who play in a band with me. Either be a responsible musician or just leave.
It’s really a crazy busy journey trying to keep life on track as well as a band but I wouldn’t have it any other way!
That is the issue - trying to find a group of musicians with the same motivation, dedication and passion as yourself. There is always one that seems to have the most drive and ambition and usually one that has little and more into the 'social' side than the hard graft it takes to actually bring in a crowd and have a dedicated following.
If its 'not' fulfilling you, then I would look elsewhere - especially if you have sat down and discussed whether they are as serious as you are about this band. It may well be better to think about being a Solo artist and spend your time writing music, jamming with 'backing tracks/loops' etc and then bring in 'musicians' into 'your' band. Jamming and rehearsing for 'gigs' with 'your' band will give you that playing with others as well, but that backing band can be 'flexible'. You may need 2 or 3 drummers, bassists etc to call upon if others are 'unavailable' for a short time.
I know many musicians who had a LOT of drive and ambition that became completely disillusioned with the 'band' idea because there was always at least one that would let him down, not turn up to rehearsals, gigs on time, would rather go out to the Pub than to band practice. They either end up jumping from band to band to band until they find a 'group' that's at a similar level of drive, ambition and skill, where success is keeping them motivated and together, or have gone 'Solo' - either being a Session musician called up for gigs, recording work etc for a Solo artist, or are that Solo artist.
You don't owe anyone anything - although I would say being honest and discuss it with your band-mates too. It might just be the 'kick up the backside' they need, maybe gets them to think about their own ambition and drive, maybe even push some 'dead-wood' out to bring in someone with that 'drive' and energy to match that pushes your band on. At the very least, you are letting them know you are 'not' getting what you need/expect from them and that you will have to start looking to play with others - even if that's jamming with no plans to 'leave' the current band...