Draconomics
Fearless Papa of The Brethren of the Crust
So... forgive me for posting, but I just needed to vent some frustrations.
I've recently assumed leadership of the band I joined a year ago, and we've been looking for a female vocalist to complement our lead male singer. He's the sweetest guy, but he's a bit older and has a very busy schedule, but he comes to practice. The idea was to give him someone to play off of and to share the workload.
We got contacted by this gal who wanted to join. Great! Exactly what we needed. However, she never got back to us to set up an audition. I reached out thru her Instagram. Zilch. I finally messaged her saying I had to move on since she was not responding. Well, that got a response. I got her number. Great, so I message her songs to work on for her audition. No response. I call her, and that seemed promising, so all seemed well.
Rehearsal day comes, she messages me. Her car broke down. No problem, things happen, move the audition to next week. I say just call me to reschedule. I wait five days for a callback...zilch. I call her, convo was good, she would call the next Monday and give me an update. Monday comes, zilch. You see a pattern here? I call two days later, she can't talk, going to work. Says to call next day before 2pm. I do this, she can't talk, has an appointment, will call me later that day. Ok fine. Now, Let me say it takes a lot to piss me off, but the straw that broke my back was when my rhythm guitar player, and guy who made the group to begin with, and a guy with over fifty years experience in live playing sends her a lovely welcome message, and got ignored. Message her yesterday night, she now tells me she's too busy and it won't work out. Yes, I can see that. Even Ray Charles can see that. Thank you so much for stringing me along for three weeks.
The TLDR and moral of the story is this: there are 24 hours in a day, or 1440 minutes, or 86,400 seconds. If you can't take fifteen seconds to make a phone call or to check messages that you are expecting, you shouldn't be playing with a band period. Don't chase people down, just let them go. No musician is worth doing that for.
I've recently assumed leadership of the band I joined a year ago, and we've been looking for a female vocalist to complement our lead male singer. He's the sweetest guy, but he's a bit older and has a very busy schedule, but he comes to practice. The idea was to give him someone to play off of and to share the workload.
We got contacted by this gal who wanted to join. Great! Exactly what we needed. However, she never got back to us to set up an audition. I reached out thru her Instagram. Zilch. I finally messaged her saying I had to move on since she was not responding. Well, that got a response. I got her number. Great, so I message her songs to work on for her audition. No response. I call her, and that seemed promising, so all seemed well.
Rehearsal day comes, she messages me. Her car broke down. No problem, things happen, move the audition to next week. I say just call me to reschedule. I wait five days for a callback...zilch. I call her, convo was good, she would call the next Monday and give me an update. Monday comes, zilch. You see a pattern here? I call two days later, she can't talk, going to work. Says to call next day before 2pm. I do this, she can't talk, has an appointment, will call me later that day. Ok fine. Now, Let me say it takes a lot to piss me off, but the straw that broke my back was when my rhythm guitar player, and guy who made the group to begin with, and a guy with over fifty years experience in live playing sends her a lovely welcome message, and got ignored. Message her yesterday night, she now tells me she's too busy and it won't work out. Yes, I can see that. Even Ray Charles can see that. Thank you so much for stringing me along for three weeks.
The TLDR and moral of the story is this: there are 24 hours in a day, or 1440 minutes, or 86,400 seconds. If you can't take fifteen seconds to make a phone call or to check messages that you are expecting, you shouldn't be playing with a band period. Don't chase people down, just let them go. No musician is worth doing that for.
