What's Your Definition Of Success?

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I've changed mine a number of times in the last few years. No doubt it'll change again and again. As the years go on it becomes more about experiences and less about possessions. As many times as I've heard and read similar advice you'd think I'd have learned it more quickly. Right now I feel success is a positive attitude, a friendly face, bringing others up, getting out and living a bit more and because I still haven't perfected the lesson, acquiring lots of PRS. I'm a work in progress. You?
 
I would define success as happiness. I'm there for the most part aside from my job. I do the things I want that I'm able to do(within reason) that bring me happiness.
 
Mine is being in a place where I am helping others, encouraging others, mentoring others. One thing I think success is not would be that it's all about me or my happiness. I am not overly concerned with my happiness. What I am concerned with is that I influence those around me in a positive way such that they will want to do the same for others. If I am in a position to do that and working toward that, then I consider that to be success...if that makes any sense.
 
For me, an integral part of success is the ability to set one's own goals, and move toward them in one's own way.
 
Mine is being in a place where I am helping others, encouraging others, mentoring others. One thing I think success is not would be that it's all about me or my happiness. I am not overly concerned with my happiness. What I am concerned with is that I influence those around me in a positive way such that they will want to do the same for others. If I am in a position to do that and working toward that, then I consider that to be success...if that makes any sense.

I like this a lot.
I'm a bit more selfish in that I try to influence positive experiences for others because it makes me feel good to contribute. I am willing to give up some short term comfort for a long term sense of well being.
 
I like this a lot.
I'm a bit more selfish in that I try to influence positive experiences for others because it makes me feel good to contribute. I am willing to give up some short term comfort for a long term sense of well being.

It has been a difficult journey to this place, but one I wouldn't trade for anything. Lessons bestowed on me by others that I didn't recognize until later in life, but had such impact that I cannot turn from them and feel duty bound to pass them on no matter how or what (of my own happiness/pleasure/or whatever) I have to sacrifice to do just that.
 
I'm a little more concrete on my definition of success. Success is being able to pay your bills and then having some $ left over for fun.
 
Financial Success - Self-reliant. No one has to support me - or my children (when they're grown).

Personal Success - Happy & healthy with the love and respect of my family and friends.
 
As I've gotten older, I've become increasingly cognizant that most of the things that I valued more in my youth don't seem so important anymore. Pretty much most of the main things that society has conditioned us to value, e.g., money, cars, power, big homes, etc., really aren't the things that we can depend on as constants, and are therefore not that important in the long run.

What ALWAYS will be constant is PEOPLE, and your relationships to them.

Family and friends- people that you care about and that care about you- will never go away <until of course one of you expires LOL>, and your RELATIONSHIPS in this life to the people whom you value are all that really matters. We aren't here for that long when you think about it, and I've come to really value interacting with family and friends. Everything else can go away, but your family and friends will always be constants in your life. Spend time with them, and LISTEN to them. We all get so caught-up in our own agendas at times that we don't stop thinking about ourselves and REALLY LISTEN to someone else. Whether they are sharing a story, talking about something mundane, or whatever- when you consciously make an effort to LISTEN to what others have to say, you become cognizant of how unique everyone is, and how lucky you are to have crossed paths with them.
 
JizzySnarf did put that very well. I think our ideas about success do change. Part of it is that we reach some of our levels of pre-determined success & find out it wasn't really as cool as we expected.


My definition may be a little wierd....................... dunno, but it is my current definition of personal success. I want to know that my children will be able to takee care of themselves when I leave this World. I want to know that they will be OK if our economy really collapses. I want to know that nobody will ever come to take their homes from them. That my Grandchildren will always have a place to live.

As a caveat: I take great pride in the fact that my 34 & 36 yr old kids have never asked me for a dime in their adulthood.......... some level of success right there :rock:
 
Owning one of these...

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Jamie
 
Dane, Mark & Hans & The "Duke" pretty much nailed it. When I was younger all I wanted was a record deal & ALL DA LADIES! Been there done that & have nothing to show for it. This past 2 years have been the hardest of my life & I have grown more than the other 47. Kate had a HUGE impact on my life. Hands down, the best thing to ever happen to me. I felt sad when I was selling off my gear at 1st. I was also mad that I HAD to. Then as my babies started shipping all over the world & I saw how happy the recipients were, I realized I was ok with it. It wasn't the end of the world. Those beauties are just stuff. I can always get more later if I choose. Even Kate got in on the action as we took truckloads of her old clothes & toys to Goodwill. She said other boys & girls need toys & clothes. The look in her eyes just made it all real. She had true joy in giving her old things away. She jumped up & down giggling. She knows she has plenty and she's happy to share.
So....true success for me would to be more like Kate!
 
Dane, Mark & Hans & The "Duke" pretty much nailed it. When I was younger all I wanted was a record deal & ALL DA LADIES! Been there done that & have nothing to show for it. This past 2 years have been the hardest of my life & I have grown more than the other 47. Kate had a HUGE impact on my life. Hands down, the best thing to ever happen to me. I felt sad when I was selling off my gear at 1st. I was also mad that I HAD to. Then as my babies started shipping all over the world & I saw how happy the recipients were, I realized I was ok with it. It wasn't the end of the world. Those beauties are just stuff. I can always get more later if I choose. Even Kate got in on the action as we took truckloads of her old clothes & toys to Goodwill. She said other boys & girls need toys & clothes. The look in her eyes just made it all real. She had true joy in giving her old things away. She jumped up & down giggling. She knows she has plenty and she's happy to share.
So....true success for me would to be more like Kate!

Awesome perspective. :top:
 
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