I’m another one that hasn’t had issues with PRS frets of any vintage. I gigged a set of 513s from 2007 for years, still have them both, and neither is in need of a refret. There is some wear, but nothing unusual for the amount of use they’ve seen. I play them regularly to this day.
It’s in your setup or playing style if you’re having excessive wear, which isn’t a bad thing, but is something to consider in buying a guitar. If I was a heavy wearer, and liked the PRS offering, I’d plan on a refret with stainless frets when the originals wear down. PRS frets don’t wear any faster than Gibson or Fender frets, so my guess is that if you’re getting long life from another guitar, it probably has stainless frets to begin with. The PRS Joe Walsh SC594 has stainless frets, if you can find one! I don’t know of another PRS equipped with them.
Good luck in your search!