The sobriety club

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by John Beef, Nov 22, 2019.

  1. veinbuster

    veinbuster Zombie Three, DFZ

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    You got off easy. My dad made me practice falling for 6 weeks before he let me go to the martial art class he taught. It might have had something to do with the fact that I was 7 and every body else was in the army.
     
  2. pac90

    pac90 In Helix Land, the waters warm

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    Speedy recovery


    I'm genetically gifted with alcohol..
    ....ie...I get hangovers, so mostly self governing. "Never learn" occasionally ;)

    I love beer and wine makes a meal, so moderation over abstinence
     
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  3. sergiodeblanc

    sergiodeblanc Zombie Eight, DFZ

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    That’s my problem. I quit drinking pretty much the first year of my son’s life (I was too nervous to function) but man did I miss wine with dinner.


    The crazy thing was.... that also happened to be the year I bought a pile of guitars. Got back on the sauce, and all I have are less guitars and more of a belly.:(
     
  4. John Beef

    John Beef Opaque

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    Yeah, I think about how many nice guitars just turned into alcohol in my belly, I think about how many hours I spent drinking and watching movies or something instead of practicing.

    Well, it's been a week, I'm still vomiting and dizzy. My ears are ringing like crazy and my vision is blurred. Nothing tastes good. Every time my kids start to bicker and whine, I barf. I have eaten maybe a day's worth of food in the last week. We had studio time booked Wednesday that we missed because I sleep like 15 hours a day and stay awake no longer than 3 or 4 at a time.

    Anyway, thanks for listening.
     
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  5. sergiodeblanc

    sergiodeblanc Zombie Eight, DFZ

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    Is all that from the head injury or is it from detox too? Seriously, my heart goes out to you, buddy.
     
  6. John Beef

    John Beef Opaque

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    I don't really know. :(
     
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  7. matonanjin

    matonanjin New Member

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    @John Beef I came to a very similar decision process as you when I was about 10 years older than you. I started my drinking career at age 14. Like you, I rationalized things like never "miss appointments because of alcohol, never day drank". I went through undergrad and grad school; I had a successful professional career, still had the family, the house, cars in the garage and and obscenely expensive horses in the barn, etc. And if one looked at my situation from the outside it no doubt appeared idyllic. Some might even be envious. But reality was entirely, dramatically different. I didn't have a physical accident as you did. Although there were some (many) near misses.

    I'm not sure how constructive it would be to go into more detail about what was going on, or about to unfold, when I made my decision. I would happy to discuss these details at any length you would like privately. By pm or phone or however you choose. The bottom line is this: I took my last drink January 30, 2001. These last (almost) 19 years have been the best of my life. And I say that without a second of hesitation. My wife would agree with the same lack of hesitation. There have been challenges, of course. Life goes on. A bout with cancer and, as some others on here know, some major spine surgeries the last 5 years. But even with these considered, I remain of the opinion these last years have been the best of my life.

    I join others on here in wishing you a speedy recovery. And, more importantly, commend you on whatever decision you ultimately make..
     
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  8. Alnus Rubra

    Alnus Rubra Loving nature’s wonders

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    Here’s hoping you a healthy recovery John.
     
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  9. vchizzle

    vchizzle Zomb!e Nine, DFZ

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    Ouch, hope you get well soon. I rarely drink more than 2-3 beers. I cut loose on rare occasions, but I don’t like feeling drunk. I don’t mind a mild buzz though. Do what you feel is right.
     
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  10. pac90

    pac90 In Helix Land, the waters warm

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    I think head injuries take time to heal, rest up and take care, but speak to your doctor, they should be able to get you on an even keel again, help with appetite etc

    All the best, hope you feel better each day
     
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  11. Wakester

    Wakester Re Member

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    I have been sober 11 years as of Nov 8 (my wife's birthday). I didn't quit because of that, but because I came to realize I had no freaking idea where my money was going every Air Force Reserve Weekend. I drank fairly steadily from the time I was 19 in the Navy, until I met my wife, then I tapered back to just the weekends. Then over time it was really heavy once a month. Finally on her birthday, I said screw it and just stopped. Cold Turkey. Six months later I did the same thing with smoking. Both incidences are unusual (especially for people with addictive personality types), and not everyone can pull it off. I wish you the best in your journey.
     
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  12. Black Plaid

    Black Plaid just another Alan

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    Oh no! That's terrible. I would say you should follow up with this with your doc. These seem like serious symptoms given your injury!
     
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  13. Eddie kim

    Eddie kim New Member

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    Hope all goes well John. One of my wife’s co worker just passed away from a fall by his raised first floor apt due to a small fall. Life is short, live to the fullest.
     
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  14. Steve's addiction

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    Sorry you had the accident. I stopped 4 months ago when I found out drinking and tradigies (wife passed away) don't mix for me. I do miss that glass of wine at dinner but overall I am good with not drinking. Hope everything goes smoothly for you.
     
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  15. Dirty_Boogie

    Dirty_Boogie Still got the ol' tagger on it

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    Are you getting medical assistance or being monitored by a doctor? Your body is obviously going through some serious physiological changes right now, so seeing a specialist might be a good idea, to look at it from all sides - diet, medicines (and possible interactions), talking to someone/short-term therapy, etc.

    All the best.
     
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  16. dogrocketp

    dogrocketp I drank the PRS kool aid, and it was tasty!

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    John, I got a concussion several months ago, and those were my exact symptoms. Make sure the doctors look into that. I’ve had a one drink maximum rule for the last 35 years. Alcohol and other substances make me stupid and monosyllabic. My Ukrainian girl friend doesn’t understand, but I’m not flexible about this. You know what you need to do for yourself. Take care, get better, be patient about the headaches and nausea. This is your wake up call from the cosmos.
     
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  17. Antmax

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    I'm pretty much sober since about age 25. Took me a while to get there, back in the UK we were binge drinking from about 16. As a student the student bar sold beer for $1 a pint, so did the local nightclubs on student night. Clubbing and drink went on and on, but to be honest I was falling out with it for years. Whenever I woke up the next morning I felt really cruddy and it took me all morning with a spoiled stomach before I started to feel myself again.

    One day I decided enough was enough. The last 20 years I barely drink at all. Actually the only time I fancy a beer is after a long hot day in the garden, when I'm knackered I like nothing more than a cold beer. So occasionally I have one. I probably drink about 6 pints of beer a year and maybe 2 glasses of wine and the odd shot of brandy in my eggnog towards the end of the year.
     
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  18. CatStrangler

    CatStrangler PRS Enthusiast

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    Getting close, mostly I hate sleeping like **** and feeling tired and my pants getting tighter
     
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  19. gush

    gush She said "huge bag of dibs".

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    Dang, that sounds crazy. I feel stupid for asking but are you keeping your doctor on the loop on this? It almost sounds like there is an injury that's gone undetected or it was more damaging than they realize?
     
  20. LSchefman

    LSchefman Hears Tones

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    I cut back on my drinking because every morning I found myself freaking out after waking up in a strange woman’s bed.

    “Dude, you’ve woken up with your wife every morning for a zillion years.”

    “That’s what drove me to drink!”
     

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