I used to have Ovations years ago (Std Balladeers) until I discovered PRS HB's nearly 20 years ago. My female hands are also very small (the size of a 12 year old?) but I do have a good stretch considering I have short fingers. For me I find the wide fat neck feels the most comfortable (is that what they call the pattern neck today?) I found the wide thin neck the most uncomfortable as it sometimes makes my thumb cramp up.