DanWessonValor
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If you followed my last post, I was having some struggles in a mega church band. I'm not here to vent but to just share my experience and to learn to deal with the situation at hand better. So like the title says, I got replaced "quitely" and was made to leave with a lot of shame. So I had moved from acoustic to electric guitar because our sound engineer believed acoustic guitars have no place in modern music. I played electric guitar for about a year but the worship pastor kept saying he wanted to bring John Doe into his band because they had a close relationship. I felt quite disrepected but just kept on showing up for my gig. Then all of sudden, the band leader announced that they had finally gotten John Doe to join the band. No one sat me down to tell me and no one told me what my future role would be. Maybe they thought I would leave without telling me to leave. I informed the band leader that I would no longer be "serving" in the band. He acted surprised and asked, "Why?! What happened?" I don't know if he is playing dumb or really is dumb. A few folks from the band reached out to me separately and said the situation was handled horribly.
So you could be asking was I good and did I have issues that warranted the band leader "silently" replacing me. I showed up to practice and was prompt. I was not a drama queen and even in this situation, I just left quitely. Is the new guy that good? I would say I would pick him over me but the talent level difference is not huge. I had two weeks to listen to him and he's fine but heard a lot of mistakes. My take is that I got pushed aside "silently" so that the band leader can have his buddy or friend be on the band while disrespecting the heck out me in the process. So, I am trying to just move on but this was such a dick move from my point of view.
Update: A member from the leadership position has made a sincere apology (NOT THE WORSHIP PASTOR) for allowing this to happen and not being able to stop it under his watch.
Edit: Did I quit or get kicked out? If someone is brought into my position and no one says what my future role will be then that's a clear indication that they do not want me. When asked what my future role would be, the worship pastor dodged the question but another person thanked me for "filling in" at the electric guitar position but still made no mention of what my future role would be. So if they eliminated my position, what's the point of staying?
So you could be asking was I good and did I have issues that warranted the band leader "silently" replacing me. I showed up to practice and was prompt. I was not a drama queen and even in this situation, I just left quitely. Is the new guy that good? I would say I would pick him over me but the talent level difference is not huge. I had two weeks to listen to him and he's fine but heard a lot of mistakes. My take is that I got pushed aside "silently" so that the band leader can have his buddy or friend be on the band while disrespecting the heck out me in the process. So, I am trying to just move on but this was such a dick move from my point of view.
Update: A member from the leadership position has made a sincere apology (NOT THE WORSHIP PASTOR) for allowing this to happen and not being able to stop it under his watch.
Edit: Did I quit or get kicked out? If someone is brought into my position and no one says what my future role will be then that's a clear indication that they do not want me. When asked what my future role would be, the worship pastor dodged the question but another person thanked me for "filling in" at the electric guitar position but still made no mention of what my future role would be. So if they eliminated my position, what's the point of staying?
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