As much as I like to joke around, and even tease people that KNOW I’m teasing/joking, I learned the hard way that the internet of FULL of people, who are not nearly man enough to say things to your face that they gladly say from behind their keyboard. If some people acted in a bar like they act on the internet, they’d be getting their ass beat on a daily basis.
My first forum I ever was in, was the Line 6 forum. After a couple years, I was invited to a small forum of all guys that met there at L6 forum. Over the years, it went from being a group of friends so tight that we had get-togethers and people came from all over the country to jam all weekend together, literally 20 guys showed up the first year and from New Jersey to California to Florida and Texas. But they allowed you to talk about anything. With politics and religion soon becoming the most populated thread, the forum became a free for all with disagreements becoming arguments then bashing and personal insults to all out brawls. Worse those of us who tried to stay out of those sections were often called out directly by those who would call your beliefs into question and pollute gear threads with religion talk or would come into gear threads and challenge you to come into the politics and religion threads.
This forum was at one time home to 30-40 “friends” and everyone got along AND was home of The Friday Night Jam where someone would put up a BT and lots of guys would record their solos over it and post it at the board. We had one FNJ that was over 30 minutes long! A two minute BT, and so many guys submitted thier takes that when they put them all together it was over 30 invites long. Guys were close enough that many of us called or texted or emailed each other regularly. I even spoke on the phone with several guys from out of the US who called just to talk. At one point, there were a core group of 25-30 guys there who knew all the other guys wife’s names, all their kids names, had their home address and phone number.
Within 5 years that super cool place had become so fragmented, and many cool guys had left. Within another 3, the place was down to less than 5 participants and everyone else had left for good, or might poke their head in there every once in a while. It had been a forum that at one point had active conversations going all the time in multiple threads even with it’s small size. By that time I left, there were maybe 3-4 active participants and 5 others who’d post a couple times a week. Most of the guys who left, had such a bad taste in their mouths about it that few of them even stay in touch at all any more. I literally saw guys who were so happy to meet in person that they walked up and hugged someone, 3 years later swearing that if they ever saw each other in person again they’d fight. The insults and bashing got WAY out of hand, and since it was privately owned, nobody policed it in any way. I still don’t know what it is that makes some people such total A$$hoLz on the internet. But I got tired of wanting to punch the computer screen and wondering how people who were supposed to be friends could treat each other that way. There’s just something about hiding behind a screen that brings out the worst in many people.